Guide · For the moments it's too much
How to calm down
Part of stillwater — a calm space to remember you don't have to face life alone.
When the moment is bigger than you, you don't need a plan. You need a softer landing. Here are a few of them.
One minute — breathe it down
- — Breathe in through the nose for four.
- — Hold for one.
- — Breathe out through the mouth for six or eight.
- — Repeat for a full minute.
A long exhale tells your nervous system you're safe. The body believes the breath before it believes the thoughts.
Two minutes — come back to your body
- — Press your feet into the floor. Notice the weight.
- — Cold water on your wrists or face.
- — Five things you can see. Four you can touch. Three you can hear.
- — Move — even a short walk to a window.
Talk to yourself the way someone kind would
“This is hard. It makes sense that I feel this way. I'm going to be okay. I just need a minute.” Said quietly to yourself, that's often enough.
You're not alone in this
Calming down is easier when you're not doing it alone. Even a message to a friend, or a quiet exchange with a calm voice, takes some of the edge off.
Nobody should have to face life alone.
Land here for a minute. Breathe with stillwater, or use the quick calm-now reset.